I haven’t blogged in what feels like forever. I’ve been posting a little to https://www.facebook.com/kristenhuntleyphotographer. I’ve taken a chunk of time out of my business and decided to focus on family. So my sessions have been limited. Even more so, over the past 3 months. We are a football family. We countdown to when preseason starts, we never miss a game and we yell at the tv. Yes, we are THOSE people. 😉
I was super excited this year because it was my 10 yr olds first year playing football. 2 hour practices, 4 times a week, and a game every weekend. Let’s just say dinners were sometimes rushed and bedtimes had a hard time keeping up.
Now, among the many things I try to instill in my kids, it’s to compete, if your going to do something….do it well. And be the fruit loop. Yes. I tell my kids to “Be the Fruit Loop” almost daily. “Be the Fruit Loop, Adam.” I’ve gotten many weird looks from others when saying this and little giggles from my kids. Explaining this…”Be the Fruit Loop in a world of Cheerios.” Don’t subside to what society is or anyone else wants you to be. And he’s very good at it. I tell him to own it. Whatever he likes, does, etc. Win or Lose. Own it.
Now, fast forward. Present day. My son not only started his first year of football, he was a starter on the team. He switched back and forth from tight end to wide receiver and moved around on defense. The team was undefeated the whole season for the first time in Brunswick County history. They won the Oyster Bowl and he is playing in the Senior Bowl this weekend. Let’s just put it out there….I’m super proud!
Is it nice to win? Abso-freakin-lutely! But don’t you have to lose to know what it feels like to win?
Unfortunately, we live in a world where kids are given “participation trophies, medals, etc.”. Life does not give you participation medals, trophies, or jobs. You work hard to get what you want because you don’t want to lose. How are children suppose to know what losing is when every one wins. It sends the wrong message and children get the mind set that the world will always reward them for just trying without being the best. Maybe you’ve heard of this “entitlement complex” many young adults are going through. There is only one winner in a game, only the best get promoted, and people in the real adult world aren’t going to give you a consolation prize to keep from hurting your feelings. And yes they are children, but isn’t it our job to raise them so they succeed in the world? This has taught them that mediocrity and complacency is acceptable and will get them the end result they want in all their endeavors. I’m not saying, they don’t deserve a pat on the back or something equal to show they still did good, but when my child loses, it gives him motivation to get better, to work for something the next time. When he wins, it keeps him on track to play the best, do the best.
It’s completely okay to lose, to fail, but don’t reward it. I know I may get some slack for this, but I just wanted to put it out there anyway. What type of person would I be if I told my children to be the fruit loop, but I wasn’t…. 🙂